Relationships

All intimate relationships are made of a balanced winning recipe of trust, honesty and attraction. Happy couples do all this and even more, just like magic dust, to keep their love thriving and the flame burning for a very long time to come. The one thing all couples should remember is that love is not about finding the right person, it is actually about working with this person to create the right relationship for both of you. The couples that are able to turn things around successfully are the ones who can create loving and lasting relationships. Here are some of the things they do: 1. Time for one another. The worst form of abuse a relationship can go through is neglect or the lack of attention. Time spent together is the oxygen every couple needs and when you starve a relationship off this oxygen, you are basically giving it a slow death. We often underestimate the power of a kind word of appreciation, a thoughtful question asking after your partner’s day or a listening ear that is focused. This very simple act of caring can turn a relationship around from neglect to care. We don’t realize that when we pay attention to each other, we are actually breathing new life into each other too. This attention and affection is what a relationship needs to flourish and grow strong. To summarize: Stay in touch with your partner’s life and communicate openly. Call your partner in the middle of the day just to tell him or her that you love them. The result is worth the extra effort you take. 2. Being straightforward. No matter how sure you are about your partner’s love, it is always nice to be reminded of it with a few loving words and a loving gesture. When you truly love someone, it should reflect in your littlest of deeds. Don’t beat around the bush when you want to show your love, be straightforward. If you appreciate what your partner did for you today, tell them. If you adore your partner today, tell them. If you are hurt, tell them. Hearts often get confused and upset when left on their own thinking devices. Express your love everyday. 3. Meeting half way. The most important and sometimes the most difficult trip you both will make together is meeting your partner half way. Rather than working alone or against your partner, work with them by meeting them half way. Healthy and successful relationships are all about teamwork and compromise. 4. Actions that back up claims of love. Actions always speak louder than words. Act like you love your partner when you claim that you do. The way you treat your partner speaks your love louder than words ever can. You can say ‘I love you’ everyday, but if your actions don’t prove your words, your words are meaningless. Make a habit of showing your love. 5. Focus on what you like about your partner. The power of your thoughts …

Someone close to you has hurt you greatly. The pain stung like a knife to the chest and lingers there like a reoccurring nightmare. Every waking hour, you think about what they did to you and the anger ignites again, burning brighter and more potently with every passing moment. The Hurt Before the Heal At times, the pain of their betrayal brings you t tears and other times, it leads you to destruction! Perhaps vengeance has crossed your mind or harsh words have been exchanged, but whether the anger lashes out or builds up inside you. However, every moment you keep ahold, regardless of your method of coping, it is only hurting you further. Hate and anger only destroys, it never creates, but it is always spawning, because a lot of the time, being angry is easier than being happy. However, when you are fuming and spewing ager out of your aura, you are affecting your environment. Sending negative vibes into the world will only come back around to hurt you, even if the cause of your anger is justified. Anger leads to depression, high blood pressure and an all-around worse state of mind and body. The stresses of being angry and holding a grudge will lead to serious health problems. Therefore, by forgiving those who have wronged you, you are actually improving the quality of your own life. How to Begin to Forgive To truly forgive, you must really feel the forgiveness. You cannot half-heartedly forgive or the resentment that comes with the initial grievance will stay with you forever. So, first, in order to really begin to forgive, you need to express to that person the depth which they hurt you and not by calling them names or throwing bricks through their window. Your first step is to talk to them and let it all out. Let them know why you are hurt. In some cases, it may be unclear, but even if the issue is obvious, it is still important for them to hear it and understand it from you. The next step, after you have aired your grievances, is to actively listen to the other person and try to sympathize with their point of view. This does not mean that you have to agree with everything that they say, just make an effort to look at the situation differently. Realistically, you cannot stay mad at them forever and that is important for everyone involved to understand. After you calm down and after you get it out, a new wave of emotion will overtake you. This emotion will be nostalgic. You will miss them and even want them back in your life.  It is at this time, that you must let yourself feel the nostalgia overcome you. You must denounce the thoughts of hatred because this new feeling is your body telling you that you are ready to let go of the anger and move forward. If negativity disrupts this process, it will just start over again …