Someone close to you has hurt you greatly. The pain stung like a knife to the chest and lingers there like a reoccurring nightmare. Every waking hour, you think about what they did to you and the anger ignites again, burning brighter and more potently with every passing moment. The Hurt Before the Heal At times, the pain of their betrayal brings you t tears and other times, it leads you to destruction! Perhaps vengeance has crossed your mind or harsh words have been exchanged, but whether the anger lashes out or builds up inside you. However, every moment you keep ahold, regardless of your method of coping, it is only hurting you further. Hate and anger only destroys, it never creates, but it is always spawning, because a lot of the time, being angry is easier than being happy. However, when you are fuming and spewing ager out of your aura, you are affecting your environment. Sending negative vibes into the world will only come back around to hurt you, even if the cause of your anger is justified. Anger leads to depression, high blood pressure and an all-around worse state of mind and body. The stresses of being angry and holding a grudge will lead to serious health problems. Therefore, by forgiving those who have wronged you, you are actually improving the quality of your own life. How to Begin to Forgive To truly forgive, you must really feel the forgiveness. You cannot half-heartedly forgive or the resentment that comes with the initial grievance will stay with you forever. So, first, in order to really begin to forgive, you need to express to that person the depth which they hurt you and not by calling them names or throwing bricks through their window. Your first step is to talk to them and let it all out. Let them know why you are hurt. In some cases, it may be unclear, but even if the issue is obvious, it is still important for them to hear it and understand it from you. The next step, after you have aired your grievances, is to actively listen to the other person and try to sympathize with their point of view. This does not mean that you have to agree with everything that they say, just make an effort to look at the situation differently. Realistically, you cannot stay mad at them forever and that is important for everyone involved to understand. After you calm down and after you get it out, a new wave of emotion will overtake you. This emotion will be nostalgic. You will miss them and even want them back in your life. It is at this time, that you must let yourself feel the nostalgia overcome you. You must denounce the thoughts of hatred because this new feeling is your body telling you that you are ready to let go of the anger and move forward. If negativity disrupts this process, it will just start over again …Read More »
Are You Feeling Lonely or Alone?
The feeling of happiness seems to be in the past now. A distant memory. Your heart is broken, your soul is crushed. You are going through a breakup. So, you sit alone at home where so many good memories resided and they seem to be suffocating you. Regardless of the reasons behind your breakup, the memories still haunt you like a ghost of a former self. It is in this moment, while you sitting there, with your phone turned off because you’re afraid they may call and even more afraid that they won’t that you must make a choice; are you going to be lonely, or just alone? Choosing to be lonely implies a sense of desolate desperation; severing you from the world by force. To be lonely implicates you and condemns you in your choice to allow that relationship status to rule you. Loneliness incurs a negative energy, from which it takes a great deal of willpower to overcome. If you are lonely, you are sad, depressed and forlorn. You tend to look at the world through a “what if” lens that revolves around a solitary person or circumstance. What if I had given them more space? What if I hadn’t said that? What if I told them how I truly feel? What if… What ifs only feed the hunger for which loneliness yearns. The past is the past. What is done is done. By truly accepting that fact and looking forward to what life has in store for your future, whether it is five minutes from now, or five years, is what will give you the strength to be alone. Choosing to be alone implies independence. You are your own self. You do not have to answer to anyone. If you want to go out, just grab your keys, if you do no return home, no one will hold it against you. Choosing to be alone is the strength that allows you to get on with your life. Being alone is the implicit understanding that you are in charge of your own life. Being alone gives you a chance to get to know the real you. To be alone gives you the freedom to form your own preferences, make your own schedule and take a risk that being in a relationship may have held you back from. Just because one is alone does not mean that they must inevitably be lonely. Far from it! To be alone, to truly have the confidence in yourself to be alone, may actually enhance your life! So many people are so afraid of being alone, because they feel loneliness is looming just around the corner. When they think about being alone, they feel the walls caving in and the whole world turning against them as they shrink from existence into oblivion. Forget oblivion and forget loneliness. Loneliness is only for the weak of spirit. You are strong and your heart will not allow you to be lonely. There is not a soul …Read More »
In todays society, worry became a normal routine. But there are 2 sides to this feeling. If the feeling of worry pushes you to take action and solve a problem, then you are implementing correctly. Unfortunately most of us are creating more harm than good by worrying. By constantly contemplating “what ifs” and worse case scenarios, we are stressing our body and mind with unnecessary fear and doubt. What if you stopped worrying about things that you can’t control and started focusing on the things you can? How would your life change? I assume you would be a much happier person 🙂 We need to understand that everything that is happening in our life today is either teaching us a lesson, helping us grow, or testing our strength. Remember, everything will work out for the best even if you don’t see it now. Let today be the day you stop worrying and start enjoying your life 🙂.Read More »